Our First Date

Mixed Italy, Nov&Dec 07 024

Happy Valentines Day! In honor of my favorite holiday I thought I would share a funny story about my first date with Jonathan. This picture isn’t actually from our first date. It’s from a drunken night out clubbing in Milan during the early days of our relationship. We look pretty ridiculous in it but, as you can see from our goofy expressions, we had a fun night. Jonathan and I didn’t have the most conventional start to our relationship (which is a whole other story) and by the time we went on our first official date we were already living together in New York. He took me out to dinner at a restaurant in Little Italy. I wish I could remember the name of the place although it may not even be there anymore. I ordered penne arrabbiatta (still one of my favorite dishes) and Jonathan chose a bottle of red wine. It was one of the first times I’d been on a “real date” with candles and wine. Even though we were already living together, I was super nervous and wanted to make a good impression. I was suddenly hyper aware of how I looked when eating and felt really awkward. I was so busy being paranoid about getting food on my face or in my teeth, I didn’t get a chance to eat more than a few careful bites by the time Jonathan finished. Once he stopped eating I felt even more uncomfortable so I pretended to be done. Jonathan, thinking I was full, asked if he could finish my pasta. Of course I said yes, I certainly wasn’t going to admit that I was really hungry but felt too shy to eat in front of him. I just remember sitting there watching him finish my dinner while my stomach grumbled with hunger. I think I made it halfway home before I cracked and made us stop at White Castle. Thankfully this phase didn’t last very long and I am no longer self conscious about eating in front of Jonathan (or anyone). Now eating out together is one of our favourite things to do, but I still look back on that first dinner together and smile. If I had known that Jonathan would end up being my husband would I have been more nervous or less nervous? More than anything I probably would have been relieved to know that I wouldn’t have to go on anymore nerve wracking first dates!

First dates are tough! What was your best first date? What was your worst?